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A Gain for our Pain: 5 Powerful Methods to Reclaim Control

painWhat is your Pain Attitude?  It matters whether it is of the chirpy “No Pain, No Gain!” style of former 80’s workout guru Jane Fonda or, the sullen “Everybody Hurts” variety from the REM tune.


No doubt everyone realizes that we all have pain throughout our lives whether physical, emotional, mental, financial, social/relational or spiritual.  But as 1 Smart Life’s Spirituality Coach Mitch Coggin tells us, the Buddhist proverb “Pain is inevitable, Suffering is optional.” is a perfect place to start to refocus your thinking.


How do we deal with pain?  “We deal with pain by using strategies to manage it…to not be victimized by it,” says Mitch.  We deal with pain in a multitude of ways … some medically endorsed and some are our homegrown coping mechanisms.  But how do we deal with pain using emotional and spiritual strategies?


Here are 5 powerful methods to try to reclaim control of your pain attitude.  Practice these habits so when things get tough, you have “Go To” strategies for feeling good:

  1. Meditation in Minutes – if you are a pro at meditation that’s great.  If not, how about just stopping to breathe?  Take a few long deep breaths while exhaling out the negative feelings you are having about your pain.  Breathe in positive energy and give yourself an affirmation for doing it.
  1. New refocusing strategies – Learn a new cheer such as “I Am Not My Pain”.  Create a Celebration journal where you write down the good stuff.  Change your conversations from “Ain’t It Awful” to “I’m Okay” or even “Ain’t it great”.  Try naming 10 things You Are Grateful For in 10 Minutes.
  1. Use the buddy system by surrounding yourself with positive people for support.  Phone A Friend.  Make a list of 5 others who live with pain but are still an inspiration.  (Did you know that George Clooney and Jennifer Grey have suffered chronic back pain for years following injuries?  Montel Williams was diagnosed with MS many years ago and has a foundation that raises money to find a cure.)
  1. Learning new coping skills such as getting up and doing ONE THING within the hour.
  1. Kicking the “habit” of pain – What habitual practices do you perform over and over when in pain?  Are they healing practices?  Make new “pain” habits!

Sometimes we feel that our pain is in the driver’s seat.  It’s important to remember that we do have choices and can employ new skills and strategies to feel better.

Want more?  Join Mitch for a free tele-seminar on Tuesday, September 24, 2013 @ 7:15 PM EST.  Here’s a link:  to sign up.  Bring your questions and comments.  While much of our pain hasn’t gone away, we can learn from one another what works best to manage that pain.


Kelly Walsh, M.Ed, ACC Owner, 1 Smart LifeAuthor: 
Kelly Walsh, M.Ed, ACC | Owner, 1 Smart Life

Over the past 18 years, Kelly has successfully coached business leaders and people from all walks of life to reach their highest potential. With a Master’s in counseling, professional coach and mediation certifications, and 20 years of Human Resources experience, she has successfully helped others define their dreams and create pathways to success. She is the creator and owner of 1 Smart Life, LLC a new style of personal coaching with a team of experts in all of life’s challenging areas.

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