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The Other Side of Retirement Planning

As a Chartered Retirement Planning Counselor designee, I spend a lot of time working with clients to carefully chart out the financial side of their retirement. During our meetings I will often mention the need to do the other type of retirement planning also – the personal side – the side that involves deciding how they will spend each and every day when they no longer have to punch the ol’ time clock. I ask them to carefully envision that side of retirement and make plans accordingly.

 

Rather than me try to address that concept, I asked my good friend and wise life coach, Kelly Walsh to pass along some guidance.

 

How to Create Your Retirement Life Preparedness Kit
By Kelly Walsh, President of 1 Smart Life, LLC

 

We spend our lives planning for retirement often with a focus on money. We carefully imagine stepping into the world of receiving paychecks from our investments rather than an employer and wonder how that will feel. But what else can we be preparing? We can Google instructions on how to prepare a kit for a storm or earthquake but what do we want in our Retirement Life Preparedness Kit?

 

Disaster kits focus on food, water and shelter, but I want you to do better than survive. I want you to THRIVE! Everyone wants different things out of their retirement years, so think about the following questions and how you can design your own customized kit:

 

Home: Get out a map and brainstorm where you might want to land. What’s practical? What’s impractical? Where might you travel? Where have other family and friends moved? Think of somewhere you have never thought of before.

 

Relationships: Is there any unfinished business in your circle of relationships? Is there anyone that you want to forgive or ask forgiveness of? Are you grieving? Do you want more love in your life? Are you willing to take steps to prevent past relationships from limiting your future?

 

Health: We all want to be healthy and well to enjoy our retirement years. What can you start doing now to reduce stress? What health goals have you been meaning to get to but haven’t and what small steps can you take to start managing them? Do you care for yourself as you care for others?

 

Spirit: Do you have a spiritual practice that gives meaning to your life? What are ways you can show more compassion for others? Yourself? Do you use prayer, meditation, or any other way to energize your spirit?

 

Community: What people or places are in your community that you want to be involved with? Would you like to give of your time in some way when you retire?

 

Actively Accomplish: What’s on your bucket list? What could be on that list that you haven’t thought of yet? What are some small dreams (take a photography class) and some big ones (set up a charitable foundation)?

 

Depending on your answers, you may want different things in your Retirement Life Preparedness Kit. Maybe a beach blanket, a passport, or a motorcycle. Thinking about what you want is sometimes as challenging as figuring out how you will attain it. The earlier you plan, the more options you may be able to have but it’s never too late.
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I hope that you found that to be as valuable as I have. One of my favorite quotes from Kelly is “Some people take more time planning their summer vacation than planning their life. So take a look, create some goals, and make a plan to get the most life out of your life!” For more like this, visit her website, www.1smartlife.com

 

Will Sneed, CRPC
Director
Raleigh, NC

 

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Early Money Learning

Just to get things warmed up for next week’s teleclass about money and nonverbal communication, I thought I’d explore an aspect of that dynamic this week.  Rachel and I will be talking mostly about how nonverbal communication affects your conversations about money with clients, so let’s look at how it affects you personally.

 

EarlylearningNonverbals encompass tone, stance, posture, breathing and gestures.  Watching how your parents were about money IS how you learned about money.  You actually learned about money before you learned to speak, before you learned language. You learned about it through your parent’s nonverbal communication.  What did you learn?  That money was somehow important.  That it happened every day.  That it created at least what we might call a complex emotional response.  Maybe that your parents fought about it.  And most importantly that you didn’t talk about it.  That it was Taboo!

 

You learned all that and more about money based on, first, what you saw, and then what you decided those observations meant.  You couldn’t make leaps of understanding beyond what you had experienced.  You were stuck with what was available.

 

I once worked with a guy that came to me because he just couldn’t break through a certain money ceiling.  Over and over he’d get close to going beyond a certain dollar point and then some how sabotage himself.  The cause was rooted in his childhood.  When he was little, his dad worked in a factory.  Every Friday night his dad got paid and brought the pay envelope home.  His father would give some of the money to his mother and then he’d go to the pub.  He’d come home drunk much later and there was always a fight.  As the man got to this point of the story, he had a revelation.  He said “Money ruins families”.  That was the conclusion he had come to as a child based on what he saw.  It was a logical conclusion.  He knew something bad was happening.  He knew something caused it.  He knew it couldn’t be his mom or dad, because, when we are very little, our parents can do no wrong.  The only culprit left was money.  It must have been money’s fault.

 

See how all those nonverbal cues lead him to that conclusion?  And see how, since the main nonverbal rule was “we don’t talk about money”, this conclusion never got reexamined or explored.  It continued to operate very effectively for years in the back of his brain.  All the way up until he and I talked about it and brought that childhood conclusion that he had come to into the present.

 

That happens often as I work with people.  These really old nonverbal, un-talked about conclusions get reexamined, and come to the light of the present day.  What might you have tucked away in your head about money that isn’t serving you?  And what might nonverbal communication have to do with that?

 

Come find out more about nonverbals and money as Rachel Beohm and I explore it together on June 10th.

 

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Why You Deserve to be Happy this Valentine’s Day

Love Engineer LogoValentine’s Day is meant to celebrate love. Remember when we were little and everyone received cards from everyone? No one was in relationships and yet we were all happy and felt special. However, as we enter our later years Valentine’s Day becomes a day dedicated to self-loathing for those who are still single.

 

We need to stop comparing ourselves to others and focus on what makes us happy. Maybe we are perfectly happy being single or maybe we won’t find the great love our life until later. This is all okay. What is most important is being true to ourselves and realizing what makes us happy. Who says we can’t send ourselves flowers this Valentine’s Day? Who says we have to be miserable if we are single?

 

I didn’t find the love of my life until my late 40’s. I knew what I wanted and waited patiently until I found the real deal. I had a list of traits that were important to me and at one point I even drew a picture of what I was looking for, and it turned out to be a surprising likeness to the man that is now my husband. However, if it hadn’t have been for countless ex’s and single Valentine’s Days, I wouldn’t have learned how to truly love myself and appreciate everything I have. You can be happy this Valentine’s Day and here is how:

 

  1. Realize you are totally amazing. Letting anyone’s negativity get to you is totally pointless. You are awesome and the more wholeheartedly you believe this, the better off you will be. Try creating little reminders for yourself. For example, hang a sign or put up an index card that says, “You are Beautiful” or “You Rock!” Look in the mirror and compliment yourself on your best traits. Studies show that you can affect your body’s chemistry on a molecular level based on how you think about yourself.  The way you think can change the way you feel.
  2. Make lists to help inspire positive thoughts. Try making a list of five things that you are grateful for or five things that you love about yourself and post the list somewhere where you will see it everyday, like on the fridge. Gratitude goes a long way and when you remember all the things you have to be grateful for, you are bound to be happier.
  3. Write down what is important. If you really want a relationship, make a list of what qualities or traits you are looking for in a partner. Try drawing a picture and really sitting down and thinking and visualizing what a great relationship would look like. Don’t settle, be patient and you never know when love might come into your life. However, if you don’t know what you are looking for you might just miss it.
  4. Become your own number one. You are totally worth it and you should be your own number one. If you really want flowers, why don’t you send them to yourself? Or plan to exchange flowers with a friend? You are totally worth it, so if Valentine’s Day has a way of getting you down then focus on treating yourself because you are awesome and deserve all the spoils!
  5. Remember it’s all about karma. Giving back is an excellent way to make yourself feel better this Valentine’s Day. In addition, why not try committing a random act of kindness? Send Valentine’s Day cards to strangers or let your co-workers know how much you care about them. Send an email to your best friend telling him/her all the ways they make you feel special. Valentine’s Day is all about love and it can come from many different sources.

 



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HR Magazine: Locally Outsourcing Employees Requires a Strategy

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The Arizona Republic’s recent strategy to move its community reporters out of the office, suggesting they hunker down with company-provided laptops at local coffee shops and fast-food restaurants with free Wi-Fi, is becoming the norm for other employers, according to Kelly Walsh, PHR, a 20-year human resources professional.

 

In fact, a New Jersey newspaper made a similar move some years ago, Bloomberg News reported, and The Roanoke (Va,) Times closed its traditional office in 2008 and switched to “coffee shop bureaus” that put reporters in closer touch with the communities they served.

 

“Businesses, particularly those with hurting and evolving business models like newspapers, need to watch spending and get creative about how they will save money,” Walsh said in a news release.  

 

For some employers that means a smaller physical footprint.

 

Mark Stapp, executive director of the Master of Real Estate Development program at W.P. Carey School of Business at Arizona State University (ASU), noted that while there has been a lot of change in how newspapers deliver their product, a similar evolution is happening with all businesses.

 

“Technology is allowing us to change our business models rapidly,” making it possible for organizations to operate with a smaller footprint, he said. Desks, for example, can be smaller to accommodate more compact computers and laptops. As more people occupy smaller square footage, available parking for employees shrinks.

 

“That begins to make the building functionally obsolete,” said Stapp, who is active in the Phoenix development community and is the Fred E. Taylor professor in real estate at ASU.

 

Additionally, changing technology requires a different kind of infrastructure because “you can’t drag enough bandwidth in the [current] building” to accommodate the organization’s needs.

 

“If you outsource, you also say to people, ‘Go figure out your own infrastructure.’ You [as an organization] don’t have to deal with that problem,” Stapp said. “We’re letting Starbucks provide the necessary infrastructure.”

 

Making It Work

 

Kelly Walsh recommends that organizations consider inviting employee input before committing to local outsourcing. However, once the decision is made to go that route, she said it’s important to explain the strategy to employees beyond the dollar figure the move represents. “Maybe it saved x much money, which saved them so many jobs. … I think people understand that,” she told HR News.

 

In addition, “you have to train people how to telework, and you have to train managers [of remote workers],” said the author of the Teeter Totter Conundrum” blog, which appears in The CEO Magazine. “Just floating them out there [with the message that] this is a cost savings for us … that’s going to really doom engagement.”  

 

Strong communication is a cornerstone of a good remote work arrangement so that employees feel that they are part of the company’s mission, Walsh stressed. “They should never be hearing what’s going on at home base through the grapevine.”

 

Instant messaging is one way to keep remote workers connected with one another and with those working in-house, and supervisors should encourage its use, she said.

 

It provides those workers with a sense of camaraderie, she pointed out. Otherwise, when told to fend for themselves “they may feel like [they’re] one step out of the door” and turnover can become an issue.

 

A cultural shift may occur when some workers begin working remotely: In-house employees may perceive teleworkers as having a perk they don’t have, and teleworkers may feel out of touch with what’s happening in the office.

 

Communication can ease that, Walsh said, by making public what others are working on, celebrating successes and having regular face-to-face meetings with remote workers.

 

The Gannett-owned Arizona newspaper reportedly is opening an office to use for meetings, according to a blog by an anonymous Gannett reporter. If employees attend meetings via conference calls, though, make sure they have all materials, such as PowerPoint presentations, beforehand.

 

“[And] if you’re doing something cool, like handing out T-shirts in a meeting, send them one at home” so they feel included, Walsh recommended.

 

Stapp echoed the importance of occasional in-person time with remote/locally outsourced employees.

 

“It could be just meeting with colleagues; it could be collaboration space,” he said. “The space needs to be a space to bond … for common interests regarding the company, for collaboration, for socialization.”

 

Employers should also be mindful of work/life balance of remote workers. When you telework, “there’s nobody around to say to you ‘Go home,’ ” Walsh pointed out.

 

And an organization shouldn’t assume that once an employee begins teleworking full time, he or she wouldn’t want a promotion that would mean returning to the office.

 

Action such as what the Arizona Republic took are “going to be occurring more and more as we cut back on office space [and institute] flex schedules,” Walsh said.

 

“Best-in-class companies are going to make a plan and do this well and in an inclusive way to keep engagement high.”

 

Kathy Gurchiek is the associate editor for HR News.

 



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Juggling Personal Relationships and Professional Ambitions

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Duration: 13:54

Listen to host Eric Dye & guest Kelly Walsh discuss the following:

 

  • Remind our listeners what is 1 Smart Life?
  • One of your areas of expertise is work-life balance. Can you give our listeners some tips on how to juggle personal relationships and professional ambitions?
  • Talk to us about the teeter-totter conundrum. How does that concept apply to every day life?
  • Who should hire a life coach?
  • What is the difference between a life coach and a therapist?
  • With the extra stress of the holidays, does it make work-life balance even harder? How do you manage extra stress and unique situations?

 



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The Teeter-Totter Conundrum: Achieving Work-Life Balance

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The never-ending struggle of reconciling a professional life with, well, any other kind of life, is often considered as a question of balance. How do I balance personal relationships and professional ambitions? How can I juggle the demands of my job and my family? Amid all this talk of balancing and juggling, I’d like to throw in my two cents and say that I find the best, most apt metaphor for work-life harmony to be that of a teeter-totter.

 

Yes, that oddly named fixture of playgrounds everywhere is the best visual guide I can give you to thinking about your professional and personal relationships, because, on a teeter-totter, as in all relationships, it takes two to make the thing function properly. If you dig your feet in and refuse to budge on your end of the teeter-totter, you’ll have your counterpart held hostage up in the air. If the other person decides to up and leave without warning, you’ll be sent crashing to the ground for one painful landing. These push-and-pull dynamics are more than simple physics: they’re the principles that govern our interpersonal exchanges on an emotional and intellectual level.

 

Whenever you’re feeling overwhelmed with the amount of responsibilities that you feel are on you, remind yourself that, while you certainly do have commitments and obligations to honor, the expectations surrounding them are a two-way street. You shouldn’t be afraid to ask for a little quid-pro-quo in your professional (and personal) relationships. I’ve compiled a few simple suggestions to help set you on the path to valuing your own worth and getting the most out of your business interactions.

 

Communication. We’re talking about the Golden Rule of work-life balance. Being honest, direct, and realistic is the best policy whether you’re an employer or an employee. If you’re in a position to do so, make your expectations of staff members explicit—no hidden tests or misleading understatements—and if you’re on the receiving end of those expectations, be upfront about your own abilities, so as to play to your strengths and interests and help your employer understand how to most efficiently organize his or her team. More generally speaking, also be sure to build relationships on a positive foundation, even if it’s something as simple as a shared enthusiasm for the Food Network, because no one wants to be known as a favor-seeker or a perpetual bearer of bad news.

 

Flexibility. This goes for all parties: try your best to be accommodating, within reason. Not every “Jump!” should be met with a “How high?” but a willingness to be understanding or to learn a new skill will go a long way. Stick to the lines you’ve drawn (if you’ve made it clear that you only allow a two-day grace period for late work, go right ahead and enforce it), but be reasonable in considering what’s negotiable and what’s not.

 

Responsibility.Take ownership of your past actions and acknowledge your intention to do so for future ones. If you’ve made a mistake, as we all do, claim it, explain it, and correct it without any buck-passing. People will generally respond much more favorably to an honest acknowledgement of a shortcoming than to a barrage of excuses. You’re only human, and there’s no point in shirking ownership of that particular fact.

 

Attitude. Delivery is everything. “Positive attitude” is a phrase that probably graces the pages of every code of conduct ever written, but it’s persistent for a reason. If you’re able to leave your employer or employee with a sense of positivity, you’ll quickly become someone he or she will want to deal with more. There’s a difference between being a yes-man and being a positive presence: the one disingenuously alters truths and the other simply maintains a good outlook. You can respectfully disagree with someone and still be pleasant about it—and so you should.

 

There’s no quick fix or easy answer to any question involving individual ambitions and desires, but by being reasonable, approachable, and affable, you’ll certainly smooth the way towards equitable solutions to many a problem. Being on a teeter-totter may, if you’ll excuse the pun, have its ups and downs, but it’s only with full cooperation from both sides that everything stays in motion and makes for a fun ride.

 



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Clear Communication Is Vital When Running Business

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Your phone screen lights up as a news notification appears: “President gives address from White House.”

 

Turning to your computer to launch the Internet browser, you’re greeted by a homepage full of headlines saturated with disaster, destruction — and, of course, “shocking” reality TV revelations.

 

A perfunctory glance at Facebook finds the social media sector awash with heated discussion about the latest high-profile trial.

 

All this, and you’ve only been sitting at your desk for three minutes.

 

As technology has become more omnipresent, so too has media coverage of current events, turning them into consumable sound bites and one-line blurbs to be shared, retweeted, and dropped into conversation.

 

With Google Alerts and social media feeds cropping up throughout the day, political and diplomatic concerns have become a constant presence in the workplace, giving us all ample time to internalize the atmosphere of confusion and speculation that can accompany recent events such as the Syrian conflict and government shutdown.

 

The influence of this constant, rapid-fire reportage extends beyond the obvious, affecting your professional life in surprising ways as parallels emerge between your company’s internal affairs and our country’s international affairs.

 

Whether the context is corporate or diplomatic, there’s no denying the power of the rumor mill to generate bouts of misinformation-driven panic.

 

The mechanism at work is the same when you’re anxiously wondering how much truth is in the rumor about departmental downsizing as when you’re reading online commentary debating Assad’s next move. There may be some credibility in either case, but the speculative nature of that kind of “news” leaves plenty of room for unfounded assumptions and good old-fashioned gossip, too.

 

Rumors and conjecture have a way of taking root in the absence of direct, from-the-source statements, and it’s a dangerous fact of human nature that gossip is often just as, if not more, compelling than truth.

 

That’s why it’s so important, in the business realm as in many others, to communicate news and relevant information promptly, clearly, and responsibly. Rumors are only natural, but to avoid widespread misconceptions about the state of affairs within your organization, make sure leadership personnel are prepared to dispel them before things get out of hand.

 

To that end, it’s just as essential that company leadership present a united front in providing accessible and reliable information for employees — and outside interests.

 

Such a precaution will ensure that, when it comes to the big issues, there’ll be little room for misinterpretation, and therefore less cause for unpleasant surprises.

 

Just think back to recent developments in foreign affairs: the existence of a chemical weapons arsenal in Syria was still being considered “questionable” in U.S. media mere weeks ago, despite the fact that French and British teams had confirmed the use of Sarin gas as early as June. Lacking a decisive word on the matter, many Americans couldn’t have predicted two months back that the question of military intervention would be raised.

 

Mixed information opens the doors to mistrust and confusion in a professional setting as well, so it’s vital to make internal materials, such as policy information, memos, career ladder info, and even severance plans accessible to employees.

 

Communication is one of those professional ideals preached more often than practiced.

 

In theory, employees of all levels should understand what effects company-wide developments will have for them, but the reality is usually far from that.

 

Our own political reality, too, is far from achieving that kind of transparency. A habitual refrain from the American public in response to legislation and governmental policy is, “How does that affect me? What does that mean for me in my everyday life?”

 

The answers to those basic questions often get lost amidst complicated jargon and vague or biased statements from one contingent or another, and the results aren’t at all conducive to a well-functioning democratic process, much less a productive business.

 

The responsibility for communication is two-part: it’s up to leadership figures to clearly articulate goals, policies, and their possible results, but it’s equally incumbent upon employees to educate and inform themselves.

 

Most importantly, all should listen to each other.

 

The need for candid dialogue and intellectual freedoms is universal, and the consequences of ignoring this need can be seen playing out on a horrific, international scale in current media coverage.

 

In order to prevent disagreements of a personal or ideological nature from becoming antagonistic, cultivate a culture of openness in the workplace, encouraging forums for spirited discussion and constructive criticism.

 

Genuine feedback should be valued and rewarded, and you should remember that, even if you’re in a position of authority, giving explanations for your own views is conducive to honesty and productivity, and will humanize, rather than undermine, you as a leader.

 

In addition to encouraging public forums for dialogue, provide resources for safe, private conversations. Make sure everyone is aware of the availability of HR and employee relations staff members for confidential conversations and promote an open-door policy. No one should have misgivings about approaching you with their concerns.

 

Occasional confusion, dissent, and even conflict are inevitable components in any collaborative process, but the way you handle these issues — with respect and candor — will determine the success of your leadership.

 

Cut through the noise of conjecture and confusion with clear directives, decisive action, and consideration for the input of your peers.

 

Do that and you’ll be miles ahead of your political counterparts on this one.

 



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Teetering on a Breakdown: 5 Tips for Work-Life Balance

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How do I achieve work-life balance?

 

As a life and career coach, I get this question all the time. Even if you’ve never explicitly asked this of yourself or someone else, you’ve most certainly danced around it or raised it subconsciously while trying to finish a client’s report, make it to a friend’s party or decide whether it’s worth it to take a long weekend.

 

We all want to know the secret to arriving at – and staying at – that state of balance, that point where we feel contented and in control of these conflicting aspects of our lives.

The Truth About Achieving Work-Life Balance

But here’s the thing: balance isn’t a state. It’s a process. It’s a continual back-and-forth between individuals—something I like to illustrate with the example of a teeter-totter.

 

You’re probably familiar with this scenario from your own childhood: you and the person on the opposite end of the teeter-totter take turns going up and down, and it’s all good fun until one of you decides to dig your heels in, leaving your counterpart stranded up in the air.

 

And then there’s the other scenario, much worse, wherein your friend decides to up and leave without warning, sending you plummeting down to earth for one painful landing.

 

Professional relationships can be a lot like that. If an employer refuses to budge, the employee is effectively held up in the air, made hostage by his or her dependence on the employer—and equilibrium is lost. If it’s the employee who’s inflexible, the work-life balance is similarly disrupted and working relationships are undercut by a lack of trust or the knowledge that an employee isn’t truly committed to the opportunity given to them.

 

Exchanges like these, comprised of extreme highs and lows, can only lead to disgruntlement and dissatisfaction. It takes ongoing compromise from both parties to establish the sort of rapport that can make the workplace, much like the playground, a fun, productive environment.

5 Tips To Build Better Work-Life Balance

1. Communication

First build trust before asking for favors. Bond over your love of Downton Abbey because relationships matter. Then consider how you can cover for a coworker while one goes to a child’s event and you go to your art class the next evening.

 

Feel free to bring these ideas up to your boss. Your boss might not mind that you do something during official work hours if you have plans to answer e-mails while on the sidelines of the soccer field. The key is to show that you will demonstrate results and care for their needs while you communicate effectively about your needs.

2. Flexibility

I’m not saying that every request to jump should be met with a “How high?” but it would go a long way if you were to show a willingness to learn new things and be accommodating when possible.

 

If you’re honestly out of your depth with handling a new account or really can’t stay late on Tuesdays, relay that information honestly, sans whining, so as to make it clear that you’ll do what you can, when you can, but only within reason. This way you are setting up a collaboration with your employer and not putting your work and home in competition with one another. This can lower your stress and make you an ally with your employer.

3. Distractions

There are plenty of them, these days and they add up to more time than you think.

 

Smart-phones and Facebook feeds may be a vital part of your professional life, but hopefully you’ll know when you’re crossing over into distractedness. Try to make the process of focusing routine: when you’re on your work computer, work! Force yourself to be productive, even if it’s difficult in the beginning.

 

You’ll be much more efficient—and much better about leaving work in the office once you get home—if you can mentally separate the obligations and associations with each space.

4. Let go of guilt

Let’s face it, we all carry some guilt. We think about work at home and home at work. Somehow many of us have become guilt ridden as a way of life. Recognize and own your choices. Choose to be the best you in the present situation. Be okay with being 90 percent or 80 percent some of the time in one area.

5. Find Your Definition of Perfection

Do not let anyone define what you want to be. If you do not like cooking, then you do not have to be that Martha Stewart caliber chef. Decide what is truly important to you and work on that. If it isn’t what social media agrees with, turn it off. Measure yourself against your values and you are more likely to come up satisfied.

 

Even if the work-life balance payoff isn’t immediate, uphold your end of things: ultimately, it’s in everyone’s best interests to come up with an equitable solution. After all, the teeter-totter only works when both sides are willing to have their ups and downs!

 



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Finding Work-Life Balance is Really a Game of Teeter-Totter

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You’ve heard this before: It’s just so difficult to juggle a job and a home life. I’m having a hard time juggling all these responsibilities. You’ve probably said it yourself at some point–it’s a common metaphor for balancing the professional and the personal because it’s an apt one. You might feel as though you’re the one performing for an audience of family, friends, coworkers, bosses, dealing with one thing after another in an amazing feat of circus-worthy coordination.

 

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But I think there’s an even better metaphor to describe the experience of being a modern woman in the workforce: a teeter-totter. Yes, that playground staple with the funny name is, in my opinion, the perfect analogy for the relationships that structure our busy lives, because we all too often forget that relationships are exactly what we’re talking about when we discuss work-life balance. You’re not just a solo act, juggling your obligations day after day with no hope of changing or improving things; you’re part of a complex series of relationships that are driven by continual give-and-take, much like a teeter-totter. I think that we all need to remind ourselves of the fact that we can actually use this feature of our relationships to leverage more favorable conditions.

 

Do you remember being on that teeter-totter yourself, many (or not so many) years ago? You’d go up when the person on the other end went down, and, if they decided to stay there and hold you hostage up in the air or, worse, let go and send you crashing down, the game would certainly lose its fun.

 

The interaction between, say, an employer and an employee isn’t that much different. If employers refuse to budge, effectively “holding hostage” employee interests, the sense of equilibrium is lost. If employees fill that “anchor” role, their message is more or less that they expect employers to work around them, making demands that sometimes veer towards the extreme. An interaction like this quickly becomes a tug-of-war between inflexible opposites, doomed to breed dissatisfaction on one side or another.

 

With a little compromise–and it’s easier than you think–both parties can be satisfied and the metaphorical teeter-totter can balance itself out. If, for example, employers agreed to measure performance by attitude and outcome, rather than by hours worked and amounts billed, they’d find themselves with a more self-motivated workforce. And if, conversely, employees committed to taking ownership of work responsibilities rather than feeling like a victim within the workplace, the overall result would be increased honesty and productivity, and decreased drama and buck-passing. Employers could provide more resources for safe dialogue, such as HR representatives or coaching services, and employees could in turn be more straightforward with themselves and their coworkers about their abilities and needs.

 

The gist of it all is that balanced relationships–whether professional or personal–are comprised of a back-and-forth rapport that can only be sustained by ongoing collaboration and communication. Transparency and approachability are the keys to achieving workable solutions, and, as on the playground teeter-totter, you’ve got to look the person across from you in the eye and let them know where you stand.

 



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Over the past 18 years, Kelly has successfully coached business leaders and people from all walks of life to reach their highest potential. With a Master’s in counseling, professional coach and mediation certifications, and 20 years of Human Resources experience, she has successfully helped others define their dreams and create pathways to success. She is the creator and owner of 1 Smart Life, LLC a new style of personal coaching with a team of experts in all of life’s challenging areas.

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