Sure, roses and chocolate are nice – but conversation is even sweeter.
That was the key finding of a recent Google survey, asking people which gift they’d be most excited to receive on Valentine’s Day. Less than one-quarter of respondents even selected the usual suspects – candy, flowers or jewelry – for their wish list. Instead, what most people really wanted was quality time with someone they loved.
Such statistics don’t surprise Gloria Larson, 1 Smart Life’s relationship coach. “There’s so much commercialization and pressure around Valentine’s Day, but what people really crave is connection,” she says.
So to celebrate Valentine’s Day this year, Gloria recommends taking time to conduct a special conversation with someone you love. “This is a way of re-connecting in a more meaningful way than giving roses or any other gifts,” she says.
To help you get started, Gloria provides 10 questions below to kickstart the dialogue. Ask these of your partner and listen to the answers, then have your partner do the same. Single? Consider yourself the loved one – after all, we all must have a loving relationship with ourselves first – and adapt these questions to ask of yourself. Or how about having a version of this chat with a family member or friend who is significant in your life? Remember that in asking questions, you’ll always get some insight to help you address your own as well as others’ needs.
Great food for thought, right? The whole point of this exercise, to practice on Valentine’s Day or any day, is to celebrate and show gratitude for your love relationships, including the one with yourself, and to explore how love can be built, repaired, sustained and grown. We bet you’ll find this experience richer than any Valentine’s Day candy you may receive.
Over the past 18 years, Kelly has successfully coached business leaders and people from all walks of life to reach their highest potential. With a Master’s in counseling, professional coach and mediation certifications, and 20 years of Human Resources experience, she has successfully helped others define their dreams and create pathways to success. She is the creator and owner of 1 Smart Life, LLC a new style of personal coaching with a team of experts in all of life’s challenging areas.